The potential for growth once you anchor yourself deep within your own bones; is inspiring. Growth blossoms from a place of self-acceptance.
The first step in the journey of healing & growth always starts from within. The ability to be your own anchor, to build your foundation, to learn to accept and love the whole of who you are and own that being. You cannot show up for others before there is a strong core foundation of self-acceptance, self-worth & the resulting internal steadfastness that radiates from within.
When you are so anchored in who you stand for, you start to show up as the best version of you.
Once you show up to every human and circumstance from an internal place of grounding + self-acceptance; you always have a safe home to return to. When the curveballs of life are being thrown at you, when things become difficult and feel heavy, amidst chaos and uncertainty; stand rooted and grounded in your core.
The healing journey takes root once you have grounded in your own roots. That is when you start to show up. To own who you are. You learn to trust yourself & make your intuition your guiding light.
When you anchor from within; you start to show up as who you are. Before I began to heal; I looked for validation externally. I never looked within. This robbed me of control over my own life. I gave all my power to external forces.
The world is chaotic and messy. Now more than ever before, it is time to become your own compass.
A solid internal foundation is mentally & physically beneficial. When you achieve homeostasis, a healthy resting place, your baseline, you calm your nervous system. This stable baseline gives you the power. Your body learns how to self-regulate. To pause before responding. As this becomes more automatic, you develop an unwavering ability to see things as they are, not for how you want or think they should be.
You relinquish control by learning you have very little control over external circumstances.
A part of the process of healing & loving yourself fiercely, before seeking external validation, is to know when to let go of people + circumstances that no longer serve you.
I learned over the years of healing that to honor the truest version of who I was becoming | I had to protect myself. I had to let go of broken relationships and be let go by many. Let go of relationships that no longer serve you. The toxic relationships that drain you. The people that do not have your own best interests in their heart. The people who do not raise you up & support who you are, as you are. You know who those people are in your life.
The ability to let go of people that we love, that we never imagined not being in our lives, is so hard, but it is liberating. To heal, to honor the truest version of yourself, you have to let go of who no longer serves you.
When we lose people we love; we grieve. The only way to process pain is to sit in & feel the pain. Grieving is a natural part of healing and moving forward. Grief opens space for growth & healing. To let go, you must properly grieve the loss of a relationship. You must honor past circumstances & accept that like life, relationships ebb & flow as we evolve.
This is growth. It allows us to not stay stuck in the past, but grounded in the present.
The right people for you will never leave. Relationships riddled with chaos and strife; unbalanced relationships take negative space in our environments if we stay stuck in them. We must be seen and honored for who we truly are & protect that fiercely. If we stay complacent in toxic dynamics, we close ourselves off to potentially beautiful new possibilities.
The knowledge that we all have very little control over our own lives is humbling. Learn to let go. Learn to let things be. Just be. Be as they are. Become your own guiding light. Allow your internal compass to steer you through the chaos of this world.
We cannot force what is not there any longer. We have to let go of expectations. We have let things just BE. Be as they are. Let them come and go, as they are. The more you try to control, the less actual control you have.
The journey of healing begins deeply within each one of us. Be your strongest own strongest advocate. Develop & cultivate self-acceptance & love from deep within.
Growth has no limits. It also takes so much time. Growth happens in the smallest moments we often overlook. Trust the process. Stay the course.
